Setting Up Boundaries.. After you're Sure They're The One.

2Tim 2:15
Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth.

As Christians it is our duty to Present ourselves in such a way that we need not be ashamed. And sating should be no different. We need to be sure that we can accurately handle the word of truth, we need not be ashamed and we can be approved by God in all we do. So one important thing to do, if after my last assignment you feel like you could live with this person, and they're interested in you too, you need to make boundaries to be sure that you don't go further than you should, and you don't compromise any of your purity in this relationship...

you can read my random thoughts on purity on either my blog -
http://tammmarahh.blogspot.com/2010/07/some-random-thoughts-on-purity.html

or Facebook -
http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=412552205806



Anyways... once again you're going to need a notebook. And either call the person you like, talk through the Internet... or my favorite IN PERSON!!!! (I'm oldschool.)
you'll need to talk together and come to some agreements on boundaries and rules.. there are some REALLY easy one's like
Don't have sex.
Don't be alone in a room together for long periods of time.
Don't be at the house alone.
Don't take naps together.

There are others that might be harder for you to decide on, because they vary with people... God made us all different and what's wrong to me, might not be for you... maybe you don't even agree with that little list I gave you up there. I'm not going to say you're wrong or right... this is your list. You can put on it whatever you feel you need to. But as always refer back to the Bible. Christ needs to be at the center of every relationship.



And most importantly you need to STICK to these boundaries that you have both set up. Have people that will help to keep you accountable. (You can always ask your parents to help you with that, I'm sure they would even if you didn't ask. Because parents really do want what's best for us. And usually they don't want they're children to end up heartbroken and pregnant before adulthood.)
So anyways... have fun making your lists, pray often about this.. and keep little reminders everywhere. And if you find yourself trying to ger around these boundaries and slip your way out of them. It might be best for you not to be in a relationship at all. Or at least not now. .. when you're younger. Stay innocent, and pure, no boy or girl is worth losing that precious gift you've been given By God himself.