Thursday, December 30, 2010

Free therapy!!

Okay, let's face it! every woman gets down sometime in her life... Or Month..(Maybe week) and is in desperate need of a break.. a chance to get away. and do something to make her feel better about herself.. (Or, I hope everyone every woman needs that, because I do!)
So, I've come up with some SIMPLE, easy free therapy ideas, that you ladies can do for yourselves, to make things easier to handle, to de-stress.. And guys (especially if you're married) don't stop reading yet.. these are things, that would be even greater, if your wife didn't have to do for herself! knowing that someone cares is JUST as helpful as anything I or anyone else could suggest...

Morning tea...
Every morning, before you get the kids up.. make yourself a pot of your favorite tea, or coffee.. and just sit there, on your porch, in cars go by, smell the flowers, listen to the birds singing..just sit there, don't say a thing.. But if you do have to say something.. Pray! talk to Jesus for a little bit.. tell him what you've been going through.

scented candles...
Because who doesn't like things that smell nice?.. and mom's don't worry about your children getting burnt, or hurt..they make these amazing things now, I don't remember what they're called. But they don't have a it's impossible to get burned..
Anyway.. even something as simple as your house smelling nice, can make you happier.
Yes, I know the candles without wicks are a bit more expensive, but when you think about it, sanity is priceless..

I know, they sound scary..but spending time on yourself, in front of a mirror, buying new lipstick.. playing with your looks, can actually be fun..and depending on who you're doing it for.. changes when you do it. If you want to look great, for your husband or yourself. Do it on a night when you'll just be at your house. If you want to get nice compliments from friends, that will make you feel better, you could do it before a night at church, or a friends house, playdate..

Call an old friend/ write a letter...
It's always good to get your mind off yourself (yes, even when you're going through tough times) and everyone has friends that need a word of encouragement, a random phone-call or a check-up.. and it means even more, when it comes in the mail.. next time you go to town, pick up a card that says something like "Thinking of you"... write a few sweet words.. don't mention yourself, unless they ask.. keep the focus on others.

snuggle with your kids...
set aside 5 minutes, during a commercial break..or something like that. To snuggle with your children, your husband.. ..whoever.. it will make you feel loved. And who doesn't need that?

find some new recipes online, try them out! it's always fun! and once you offer to share the baked goods with friends/family...everyone wants to be around you..

use your good dishes...
Almost everyone has good dishes, that they got for their wedding present..or whatever. At the very least use glass, instead of plastic!!.. also, if possible (maybe after the kids have gone to bed) have a candle-lit dinner with your husband...or if you're singe (sorry, that sounds mean).. turn off the lights *Most of them* light the candles and have some ice cream..or something..

Anyway.. There are some simple things that you can do, to make yourself feel better! and they really aren't all that expensive or hard.. :)

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

New Year.. Random thoughts

I'm still finding it had to believe that it's almost a new year.. I keep telling myself that I MUST be getting older if I'm finding myself saying that 'This year has gone by fast', or 'That seems like just yesterday'.. Hah..
Anyway. Last year I decided to make a list of BIG things that happened in the year of 2010, so that I could look back, and remember all the things that had happened. (I like making lists, and it's alot more comforting and a lot less stressful, than trying to remember it all by myself..) well, I have a pretty long list. Some things on it, would look silly to others, because my idea of 'Big Things' is a tad bit different from others.. I'm still trying to decide If I'm going to post a list of the 'Big Things', but I am sure of one thing I can tell you..
2010 has been a Roller-coaster of a year. I guess to some extent everyone's year can be a roller-coaster, but right off the top of my head, this is the hardest year I can remember (I know, that isn't saying much, I'm only 16) but this year Lots has happened, and a lot of it, though I'm sure some might have been a blessing in disguise, was VERY hard for me to handle, actually I don't think I could truthfully say that it's all past tense, I'm still struggling with a lot of what has happened. I keep hoping that with a new year, things will change, but the more I think about it, and the more I allow myself to be honest with myself, the more I realize that turning the calendar, or welcoming a new year isn't going to change much, except for our earth being a year older or me breaking the record of how long I've lived- and whatever else you can think of.. But when it really comes down to it, it doesn't matter if it's a new hour, week, month, year. The change only happens when I choose to welcome it. New year or not.
Many of us make 'New year resolutions' but if we're honest with ourselves, we probably neglected them by February. No matter how small the resolution like: Losing weight, quit biting nails, holding our tongue, whatever it may be.. very few of us are able to say that we actually went through with it. Most of the time it really doesn't even mean that we're flaky or unfaithful people. we just allow ourselves to get distracted, or we shift our focus. I really can't say that I'm any better. Not because I forget about my new years resolutions..But because I don't like being disappointed in myself, (or anyone else for that matter) and I set my standards HIGH for myself, so because I'm afraid I'll let myself down, I decided LONG ago, not to make new years resolutions at all. I still try to set up goals for myself, and make good personal habits. But rather than setting them up for a whole year..(I'm easily stressed) I chose to make MONTHLY goals, I'm sure we can all think of 12 things we'd like to change about ourselves, our lives or whatever else, but instead of doing that, I alot myself 2 months to complete each goal.. I've heard it said that it takes 6 weeks to develop a new habit, set up a new routine, or whatever else. But it's good to be on the safe side and give yourself more time. For example, I've been stuck on ONE personal goal for myself, sense June! I'm waaaaay behind. But really when you think about it (and I can't believe I'm saying this) we don't necessarily need to put our focus on how LONG or how LITTLE time it's taken us to do something, rather doing it. Because it actually takes more loyalty to stick with something and get it done, over a long period of time, than it does to finish it in no time, and be done with it!.. Besides, it will mean more to us, when we've stuck with something longer and completed it, than if we rushed through it to get it done with.. being able to say that we finished an assignment is one thing, being able to say that we REALLY got it done no matter how long it took, is another. It's better to have taken a whole year doing one thing, than to be so concerned with how long it took you, and just make it appear that you got it done, to make yourself feel better. Ugh, I'm rambling again...sorry! (Most of this is me trying to convince myself) I don't even really know where I'm going with this. So I'll just say one last thing and get this done with! (Stop dancing for joy.. you don't HAVE to read this!)
No matter how many things we can think of about ourselves that have room for improvement, or how many things about our lives we'd like to change, the MOST important thing that we need to be sure to do.. is set up a quiet time with Jesus.. EVERY morning, afternoon, evening... I mean, if you want to tackle other things, be my guest. But everything is easier to handle when you have a good foundation. And your foundation will always be sounder, when you use the right stuff to build it. I build my foundation with Jesus Christ. Because he's the ONLY thing that is impossible to shake, move, break or damage. He's the ONLY reason that I've made it through this year..he's the only thing that has armed me with what was essential to deal with everything this year has thrown at me. Make being more like him your personal goal every month.. every hour, every day! every week. This year alone I have filled a WHOLE notebook with letters to God. Every time that I was feeling weak and totally helpless, like I should have been finished with everything that I wanted to be done with.. every time I realized that I COULDN'T be done with any of those things on my own. I'd write him a letter, I'd go out to my car, late at night, wit my froggy flashlight.. a blanket, and write him, tell him everything.. all my thoughts, fears, failures..everything! and I can't even tell you how much it's helped..having him to pour my soul out to, him to cry to.. I also couldn't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep, holding that notebook and pencil, in my cold car, at the wee hours of the night. Because when I talk to him and tell him everything, and give it all to him, I feel a peace sweep over me, that even my insomnia couldn't beat..Every-time I feel hopeless and lost and I find myself willing to let go of my pride for long enough to write him a letter.. I fall asleep in his loving arms.. and the peace, love and comfort I feel in that moment, Means so much MORE to me, than any sense of accomplishment I could ever feel from completing a goal, or making resolutions I'd never be able to keep on my own. So as we approach this new year, I pray that your new years resolutions, your personal goals, will find room, at the top of the list for Jesus and a quiet time with him. Because it makes a WORLD of difference, it makes whatever you're faced with, a thousand times easier. I'm not a great person on my own, I can't do anything by myself.. I don't have it all-together, no matter how many times I try to tell myself I do. But when I have Jesus, none of that matters, because he doesn't expect me to be 'Little Miss perfect', that's not to say that I don't try to be (as you all know, especially if you're in Sunday School with me, or A.W.A.N.A) but it does mean that when I fail miserably, I have someone to fall into. Someone who knew all along that this would happen, and He was ready to catch me.. So Happy New year! Make Jesus one of your resolutions.. Make time for him. Then no matter what this next year brings. You'll have something to hold on to.
don't be afraid to humble yourself before him. Don't be afraid to get on your knees and pray. Or cry out to him. He loves you, and he'll accept your ashes and dirt.. from all your failed attempts at earning the world's approval, and he'll turn them into Riches.. a small reflection of his kingdom and all the glory there in..

Friday, December 17, 2010

What would you do?

Do you want to meet the monster, that's made me who I am today?

Do you want to shake his hand?

or look at this face?

Do you want to tell him your name, learn his, do you want to get to know him, and be his friend?

or would you walk away?

spit in his face?

take my by the hand, and lead me out of this place?

Because I know that you hate him, though you've never met,

from the stories that I've told. you've just decided that he is a terrible man...

you tell me he's a jerk. and not worth all this hurt, you tell me he's a fake, and the most he deserves

is this heart of mine, that he took the liberty to break.

well that's sweet of you to say, And I love you for that. but it's not that simple, not as easy as that.

- I find myself unable to let him go,

- you just sit there and your bitterness grow. You hate him more, with each passing day.

well, it seems to me, that we both have something that we need to let slide, we both have some lessons to learn, we need to let go of our pride. We need to get this out in the open, there's no need to hide.

I hope, we can set all this aside, love each other, and get on with our lives. We can't let this drag us down forever, so we better learn to face this fast...Together.

Monday, December 6, 2010

My tear stained face, my blood-shot eyes.

Leaning against your chest. Letting it go again. Allowing myself to cry.

You've always been there, even when things were at their worst.

You were always there, when you were the last thing I deserved.

You were the string I was dangling from, the strength that pushed me,

gave me enough to get through. You are all I've ever needed. It's always been you.

Shivering, still scared trying to hold on to you, I know it's not good to let go because you've

been all I had to hope for. You are all that's kept me going, all and more.

Still, I find a reason to frown, a reason to find a reason, to be down.

Why can't I just be happy? Thinking of our love? Why can't I just be happy, thinking of, what you mean to me.

Why can't I focus on the happiness? Instead of all this pain, why can't I find some sunshine, in the midst of the rain. I want to be happy. I want to focus on you, and forget, let them fade, all these skies of blue. I just want to forget it all, all of it, but you. Because you're all I need. You and me. You're my everything.